Why Human Need Friendship

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Choosing Your Friends

By: ‘Eesa Al-Bosnee

Humans have always been social creatures and in need of friends and companions. A good part of our lives is spent in interaction with others. For Muslims like us, who are living in a society, where we are clearly a minority, the issue of choosing the right companions is essential for preserving our Deen (Islam). Befriending righteous and virtuous Muslims is a necessary means for staying on the Straight Path.

In an authentic Hadeeth, the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "A person is likely to follow the faith of their friend, so look whom you befriend." (Abu Dawood and Tirmidhi)

Mixing with followers of any way other than that of the Guidance results in a change in one's behaviour, morals and conduct. If we accompany such friends, then we inherit their habits, behaviour and perhaps even their religion. Such a Muslim would find himself or herself in a situation, where he or she is willing to hide his or her Islam in front of those, who despise it (those whom he or she considers as friends) and to separate from the believers. When this situation occurs, a point is reached, when there is a very slight difference between the Muslims and their wrong-doing companion. Many times a Muslim is encouraged by their friends to do evil and to forget his duties. The result is that Muslims themselves are often ashamed to leave them to perform prayer, their friends thus causing them to clearly deviate from the Right Path.

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones, we should befriend the righteous but still treat everyone else in a gracious and just manner.

In another Hadeeth, the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows (respectively). So as for the seller of musk then either they will grant you some or you buy some from them or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from them. As for the one, who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either they will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from them." (Bukhaari and Muslim)

Allah, the Exalted says in the Qur'aan: "And (remember) the Day, when the wrong-doer will bite their hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur'aan) after it had come to me." (25:27-29)

Moreover, Allah says: "Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except Al‑Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have strong faith and deeds)." (43:67)

In the two authentic narrations of the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), we are commanded to keep company with the believers only and told that a person will be with those, whom he or she loves. So if we love and associate ourselves with those who are misguided, we should fear for our fate. The wise person is he or she, who prepares themselves for the Hereafter, not the one, who neglects their faith and falls into the trap of Shaytaan, who tells him or her that they will be forgiven and that they can do whatever they wish. If we truly believe that the best speech is the Speech of Allah and that the best guidance is the guidance of the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam), we should act in accordance with them, lest we build a proof against ourselves.

Hence, the conclusion of the whole discussion is, the friend of a true Muslim could be only and only the true Muslims, as stated in Qur'aan.

The Holy Qur'aan: “Your friends are only Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and those, who believe, who establish Salat and pay Zakat and bow down before Allah.” (5:55)