... The Woman In Your Life ...

[Amaya 3]

Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;

Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as

you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your

Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system

that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as

much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook

food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more,

and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother,

a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as

to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,

relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some

and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstained support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......

Please appreciate "HER"

I hope you will do....

[Xeeshan 0]

Hmmmm......so true,v nice n highly thought provoking.......

[rust_in_peace 2]

no matter what we say , it wont be enough measure the sacrifice a woman renders for her family, weather she is working or not.

those of us who claim to be torch bearers of Islam sometimes never realize the fact that if they really make an attempt to understand their responsibilites towards their wives.... well they would the first ones campaigning to form men rights groups. yes its a fact. ..

its so sad that we fail to differentiate between culture and religion, congnizant of the fact that the culture we have inherited came from hinduism, yes we should be able to absorb this bitter pill..

for only once if one can consider to be in the shoes of a bride who enters a home after an arranged marriage contract.... be in her mind, be in her heart and probably you would feel her apprehensions and fears... she spends almost all her time deciphering gestures and moods of her new family...

and i guess the hardest shock that a woman goes through (in majority of the cases) is when she steps into her new home after a love marriage, coz this time her heart breaks not once but many a times till her soul begins to feel numb ... but to her husband , whose courage and chivalry is best exercised and confined to his soul mate only, her smile feels so true. this is the smile that hides behind a lacerated heart, broken hopes and shattered dreams..... what bigger sacrifice could he ask for ?

and now think when the child cries deep in the night, most fathers only turn and toss in the bed while lamenting the whole situation whilst the great mother gets up and remains restless till the child becomes peacefull.... and yet she gets up while others snore and feeds the whole family... many a times missing her own breakfast while she rushes to make it in time for her office

and while u read this , just remember , ur mother , whose proud son u are , has also been through all this, so for her sake do give a second thought when u are in this situation

i am short of feelings and words.. i guess i do get the point across...

[Amaya 3]

ahan.....thanks xeeshan and raheel...

raheel very good thoughts......realy.....i appreciate