shy 468 Posted November 19, 2012 that's not true...aurat kabhi kisi aurat se nafrat nahi karti bas halaat aise hote hain...aap sab yahi kehte hain...that woman hate woman but ek aur side bhi is topic ka think once as a child agar apki mom ko yeh sab face karna pare...toh shayad ap aisa nahi kahenge...nobody love stepmoms kabhi is tarha bhi socho... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sharp 62 Posted November 19, 2012 You said, woman shouldn't help other woman eveb if she's needy widow or divorced!!... Sweet little tiny girl!... I LOOK at the wrold by you're eye's now!....... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shy 468 Posted November 19, 2012 i never said that...that we should not help needy woman...i just said there are thousand other ways to help them...sirf shadi he kiyun? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sharp 62 Posted November 19, 2012 Show me these 1 hundred thousand n might millon way's to help a needy beautiful, Cute, sweet woman!....... Ahhhhhhhhh!!... Please let me know!.... Coz i never stop my blood to help somone!...... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shy 468 Posted November 19, 2012 apko shayad yeh mazak lag raha hai....lekin mere liye yeh mazak nahi hai Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sharp 62 Posted November 19, 2012 You didn't saw me laughing here....BUT!!!!!.... i Can see you're near to crying... coz of tear's in the eye's!.... Oh Come On, don't!!!........... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rukh 25 Posted November 22, 2012 (edited) well mere khayal mein aisa nahi hona chahiye...agar koi widow or divorcee hai bhi toh iske liye married man he kiyun why not an unmarried? if u are willing to make this society a better place to live toh aur bhi bohat se raaste hain...aur apko yeh bhi sochna chahiye jo insaan apke sath hai yani apki wife usse bhi bura lage ga...phir chahe koi kitna he fraag dil kiyun na ho koi aurat aisa nahi chahe gi...haan shayad ek baar emotional hoke woh apko shadi ki ijaazt de bhi de...lekin sari zindagi iska afsos usse apne dil mein rahega... ek mom bhi aksar apne kids mein kahin na kahin na insaafi kar deti hai yeh toh phir wife ki baat hai...social work theek hai...magar aisa social work kis kaam ka jahan ek insaan ki help karne ki khuwahish mein aap doosray ko hurt karo... khair yeh bas meri soch hai kahan tak theek hai pata nahi... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm u r right ..ajj kal yehe sooch hay sub ki ..or yehe practice...... na mard itnay jee daar hain na awrtain itne aala zarf ...phir kia faida ..pehlay say banay rishtoon ko kharab ker k naye rishtay banaana divorced or widow ko us k haal per chor do.. .. un ka naseb un k saath... Edited November 22, 2012 by rukh Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sho_shweet 657 Posted November 22, 2012 hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm u r right ..ajj kal yehe sooch hay sub ki ..or yehe practice...... na mard itnay jee daar hain na awrtain itne aala zarf ...phir kia faida ..pehlay say banay rishtoon ko kharab ker k naye rishtay banaana v well said 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shy 468 Posted November 22, 2012 hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm u r right ..ajj kal yehe sooch hay sub ki ..or yehe practice...... na mard itnay jee daar hain na awrtain itne aala zarf ...phir kia faida ..pehlay say banay rishtoon ko kharab ker k naye rishtay banaana divorced or widow ko us k haal per chor do.. .. un ka naseb un k saath... unka naseeb Allah ne pehle se likha hai...toh koi kuch bhi karle hum isse badal nahi sakte...phir chahe hum is baat ko tasleem kare ya na karen... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rukh 25 Posted November 23, 2012 unka naseeb Allah ne pehle se likha hai...toh koi kuch bhi karle hum isse badal nahi sakte...phir chahe hum is baat ko tasleem kare ya na karen... jee haan ..koi kisi k naseeb ko badal ker usay gham say khushee nahi day sakta ..jaisay mernay walay ko zindge nahi day sakta lakin almiya yeh h kay hum aise koi koshish ker k us ko yeh ahsaas bhi nahi daina chahtay Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shy 468 Posted November 23, 2012 jee haan ..koi kisi k naseeb ko badal ker usay gham say khushee nahi day sakta ..jaisay mernay walay ko zindge nahi day sakta lakin almiya yeh h kay hum aise koi koshish ker k us ko yeh ahsaas bhi nahi daina chahtay agar aisa hai toh zaroor aisi koshish honi chahiye.....lekin married banda he kiyun unmarried kiyun nahi? maine pehle bhi yahi kaha hai.... hum zaroor unhen ek mauka den zindagi ki taraf wapas ane ke liye...lekin option mein shadishuda he kiyun ate hain?mujhe samjh nahi ata... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rukh 25 Posted November 24, 2012 (edited) agar aisa hai toh zaroor aisi koshish honi chahiye.....lekin married banda he kiyun unmarried kiyun nahi? maine pehle bhi yahi kaha hai.... hum zaroor unhen ek mauka den zindagi ki taraf wapas ane ke liye...lekin option mein shadishuda he kiyun ate hain?mujhe samjh nahi ata... shy zindge itne sedhe or asaan nahi hote k app isay ik option day ker hal ker lain ..is topic main aksar log yehe kehtay hain k app us ki madad kisi or tareqay say ker dain ...mera topic ik khaas condition per hay is bat per nahi k divorced or widow say 2nd marriage kerna umarried hazraat bohat he kam kisi bachay wale khatoon say shadi kertay hain ..kion k un ko aram say single girl mil sakte hai,, ? even k merd k apnay bachay bhi hoon tub bhi us ko singlle girl mil jate hay .. yeh koi aisa option nahi hay jo bohat aram say hamaray muashray main dastyaab ho werna ajj koi divorce or widow jis kay sath bachay hoon akylay zindgee nahi guzar rahee hotee..kisi dosray mard ki olaad ko tasleem kerna kisi bhi mard k ley bohat bara challenge hota hai ... mere apnay ird gird 100 main say sirf 1 % ayse examples ayse hain k divorced ya widow jin k sath kids hoon un ko bachoon k sath kisi mard nay accept kia ho or phir us 1% main say .5% aysee hain jin ki shadi k bad un kay bachoon k sath 2nd husband ka wohe bertaao raha ho aksar yeh batatee hay k bachay k sath bohat zyaadte hai .. k baqee 99 % apnay bachoon ko azmaaish main dalnay say behter tanha zindge guzaar dayte hain yeh kehna bohat assan hay us ka acha risshta dhoond do ...lakin kia mill bhi jata hai ? ..agar mil jaye to bohat ache bat hai lakin agar nahi milta to phir ?? or sub say ajeeb bat kia hai app ki post main k koi kissi ka naseeb nahi badal sakta agar divorced or widow k ley yeh bat hum kehtay hain k un ka nasseb tha koi badal nahi sakta to agar koi mard us say dosre shadi keray to yeh bhi us ka naseeb hee tha? kion k agar taqdeer main na hota to yeh shadi bhi na hotee? phir us merd ki 1st wife apnay naseeb per sabar kion nahi kertee ? kion itna fasaad or jhagra hota hai ? or yehe pehlee biwi agar is say olaad na ho to to aram say dosre shadi k ley maan jate hay k is ko apna ghar bachana hai kion..ab woh kaysay share kerte hai husband ko ? main is bat ko bhi maante hoon ajj kal merdoon main woh saleeqa tareeqa nahi k aik say zyada shadion ko sahe tareqay say nibha sakain lakin is say zyada mushkilat hum awrtain khare kertay hain ..k agar woh sahe sahe kerna bhi chahay to hum honay nahi daytay hum muslman han ..islam kay ahkaamat hum muslmanoo k he ley hain ...or her hukam main koi na koi hikmat hai agar us ko jaaiz or sahe neyat say her her fard ada keray to ..Allah apne nusrat zaroor ata kertay hain. dekhnay waloon nay agar yeh dekha hay k do biwioon ko koi merd khush nahi rakh paya..ya ik say zyadte ki ...to yeh bhi dekha hay woh achay tareeqay say bhi raheen baqee yeh koi farz wajib nahi k is per bohat taweel behas ho...apne apne soch ya yoon kaahin apnay apnay halaat hotay hain jo hamaray nazariyaat ko janam daytay hain ho sakta hay mere views bhi wohe hotay jo aksar k hain agar sahib-e-haal na hote : ) or jis ko kissi shaair nay yoon kaha koi phool hota hay kis terah ,koi dhool hota hay kis terah yeh waqt waqt ki bat hay ,tujhay zindgee bataye gee Edited November 24, 2012 by rukh Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shy 468 Posted November 24, 2012 ur right sis is pe behas ki zaroorat nahi hai...aur na he main is pe behas karna chahngi...Allah har kisi ka naseeb acha kare...Ameen Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aamir354pk 94 Posted February 13, 2013 mmm well to be honest am not very sure about all this but still if its happening with me and iknow that he is not dil phaink and hai Allah type banda and the girl is also widow or divorced i will open my heart and door to her and him aswell but if he makes a promise(even though man's promise is not trustworth ) to make sure that he will give rights to both wives and kids aswell on fair bases in our society the words " sautan" is very bad kinda word and is taken very seriously but u knw rukh ji if studies of islam are there with those women they can be good friends and they both can live happily in same house but at the same time you have to make sure that you dont listen to what society is saying do what your heart says i might be wrong but thats my point of view :p rainbow its easy to say but if husband want to merry again even with widower or divorce .first wife don't accept at all .I have personally seen this with some one. mmm well to be honest am not very sure about all this but still if its happening with me and iknow that he is not dil phaink and hai Allah type banda and the girl is also widow or divorced i will open my heart and door to her and him aswell but if he makes a promise(even though man's promise is not trustworth ) to make sure that he will give rights to both wives and kids aswell on fair bases in our society the words " sautan" is very bad kinda word and is taken very seriously but u knw rukh ji if studies of islam are there with those women they can be good friends and they both can live happily in same house but at the same time you have to make sure that you dont listen to what society is saying do what your heart says i might be wrong but thats my point of view :p Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aamir354pk 94 Posted February 13, 2013 Aik insan meray sath sincere hai aur woh meri permssion chahta hai tou main us ka sath don ge aur uay na sirf aijazat don ge balkay har qadam pay us ka sath bhi don ge .... Kyn k kuch males tou 2nd marriage ki permission bhi nhi laitay aur shadi kar laitay hain.... Bas main yehi chahon ge k baad main bhi mujhay meray husband ka sath aur support rahay..... Aur islam bhi 2nd marriage ki aijazat daita hai k tou main kon hoti hon mana karnay waali .... bat karna bohat asan hai lakin accept karna asan nahi mari bahan. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aamir354pk 94 Posted February 13, 2013 Thanks mansoor Still we can help widows in many ways (without marrying if you are already married), connecting them to the right family, financial and moral support etc strongly agree Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
aamir354pk 94 Posted February 13, 2013 aik bat atal hai koi aurat yeh bat bardasht nahi karti ka us ka husband dosri shadi karay.in any circumstances no women like this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
