ariba 0 Posted January 20, 2006 Slaman dearaap apne itne kimtee dimagh ko in falto ki baaton main zaya na kren ho satkta hai ke aap se kabhi koi yeh sawal na poche aur jab kisi ne pochne hi nahi hai to aap ne yah jaan kr kea krna hai? B reasonable B Happy bye 4om Ali(g) 168377[/snapback] Hello Mr. Ali, App ne newly CY join kiya hai,lakin phir b iss section main ane see pehly daikh lena chahye tha k its for girls only. App ko jab kisi ne comments dene ko invite hi nahin kiya tou phir app app ne apna time kiun waste kiya.I hope ainda aisa nahin hoga. Baqi App ne jo iss topic kay baray main post kiya hai to yeh main ne baqi girls see pocha hai aur yeh aik haqeqat hai.App k pass koe reasonable jawab nahin hai to app mat participate karo. Welcome to CY n enjoy ur stay!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ariba 0 Posted January 20, 2006 Ariba>yeh kis ne kaha ke aap bahar milne jao aap phone pe batain karo her achi larki apne ghar waloon ko dhoka nahi deti aur jahan tak husband k tanay ki baat hai to UNDERSTANDING kisse kehte hain yeh shayad aap sumjhi nahi ho sorry to say kyon k jo aap ko sumjh gaya ho woh aap ko ghalat kehne ki ghalti nahi ker sakta :) 168388[/snapback] Kiran>>Sab see pehli baat yeh hai k app per clear hoo gaya hai k islamic point of view see kiya ur kiss had tak jaiz hai.Aub hum apni taraf see kuch add karna chahien to wo allowed nahin hai. Behter yehi hai k jo cheez ghalat hai ussko ghalat kaha jaye.Hum kamzoor emaan k loog hain,ghalat kaam tou karty hi hain,lakin plz kisi gunnah k jaiz hone ka jawz mat dhoondein. Yeh koe aik ya doo din ki baat nahin hai,poori zindgi ka moamala hota hai,shuru hi Allah ki nafarmani see hooga tou kiya bane ga?? Baqi reh gaiee baat understanding ki,tou joo app ajjkal shadi k doosre rooz hi laraee jhagre aur fasad daikhti hoongi woh sab iss understanding ka hi nateeja hain. Be honset,app jab kisi see b milty hoo hamesha apni khoobiyan hi uss k samne rakhty hoo.Achy aur bohout manners see baat karty hoo.Doorsa bunda app see issi ki ummed hamesha k liye kar sakta hai.lakin hamesha aisa nahin hota. I have few examples.Most recently mere cousin ki shadi hui hai,jiss se hui hai wo meri lecturer b hain aur freind b.Unn ki shadi see pehly mere cousin see khasi achi baat cheet thi.She used to share everything with me.Aur main heiraan bulk pereshan thi k mere cousin bro main aik dum itni shandar khoobiyan kahan see agaiee hain.Full two years of this understanding,finally they got married.Meri friend ki expectation bohut bohut high hain.Allah kare wo khush hi rahin.Lakin iss see mujay yeh pata zaroor chul gaya hai k yeh jisko app understanding keh rahi hain wo kiya hai. Dossri meri aik aur friend(Most of my frineds r elder than me,its bcoz i feel comfortable in their company) hain wo apni shadi k 7 saal complete kar chuki hain aur kehti hain k "Husband ki asal nature shadi k taqreeban 5 saal baad khulna shuru hotti hai."Shadi k pehly ki understanding ka kiya kehna What i can say more??I have no any experience.Just my observation,n belief in Allah K Jo Allah ka hukam hai uss main hi humaray liye asaniyan hain. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ariba 0 Posted January 20, 2006 A very Sad story I am going to Share With U. Meri Aik friend ki death ko ajj poora aik saal hoo gaya hai.She was too young k main uski death ko kabhi nahin bhula sakti. Woh Madressa main parhti thi aur apne asoloon ki bohut pakki thi.Bohut saaf go aur baamal thi. Ghar main sab see bari thi iss liye maan baap ko uski shadi ki bohut fikar thi.Wo chahti thi k kisi deendar see meri shadi hoo jay lakin har kisi ki rawayat k caste same hoo,maaldar hoon aur deen b hoo aur duniya b etcs ki waja see aisa na hoo saka. Pehly wo kaiee proposals ko reject kar chuki thi lakin aik larki kub tak yeh kar sakti hai??So uss ko maan baap ki bat man na pari. Engagement hui,1 saal tak rahi.Uss arse main uss k susral walay yeh jaan chukay thay k wo sharee pardah karti hai aur pic nahin bunvati.Lakin phir b Aik saal baad eid see pehly usski shadi hoo gaiee. Nikkah hua,stage per gaiee tou wahan susraal waloon ki taraf see movies aur camramen ko daikh kar wo stage see uatar aii k main yeh sab nahin karoon gi.2 Ya 3 baar aisa hi hua.Susraal waloon ko bohut insult feel hui. Kaash wo wohin ussko th lay jane se inkar kar daite,lakin unhoon ne aisa nahin kiya. Wallimah per uss ne choridar pagama pehne see inkar kar diya.Aisi hi kaiee aur batoon main uss ne apni marzi ki. Hotta yeh hai k wallima k baad larki apne maiky jati hai,lakin unhoon ne ussay jane nahin diya.Aur next day uss k ghar phone kiya k apni baiti ko akar lay jain. Jab uski siter aur abbu ussy lene gay to she was dead n laying in her bed,Sleeping forever. Kaiee kahaniyan sunaiee gaiee lakin zulam chup nahin sakta.ussko zehar diya gaya tha.aur zehar k injections b lagay thay.Pata nahin kiya kuch hua uss k saath. Main ne aik Hadith parhi thi jiska mafhoom yeh hai k Allah momin ko uss waqat duniya see lay kar jaty hain jub wo Allah ko iss duniya k har shakh see ziadah mehboob hoo jata hai.Shaid Allah ko usska sirf Allah ki khatir stage see utar kar ana aur aise moqe per jab sab larkiyan hi isteqamat ko chor jati hain,,uska sabatqadam rehna hi pasand agaya jo woh Allah ko sab see ziadah mehboob hoo gaiee.Allah ussay karvat karvat jannat naseeb kary.Ameen Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
maha23 0 Posted January 20, 2006 mm bohut different aur bohut ziadha sad story thi :( ariba u r right mard ki asliyaat shaadi k badh pata chalti hey n dear ibtisam u kow meri sister ney baghir pic dekhey baghir larkey se milyee shaadi ki thi uss ney sirf ALlah per tawakal kia tha n uss k husband pictures nahi kehchwatey n mashallah aj woh bohut khush hey apney gher.so its possible ka aap pic dekhey baghir shaadi karo baqi aap ki apni kismat hey if kismat achi hey tau pic dekhain baghir aaap ki life zaberdast ho sakhti hey aur agher aap 2 saal bhi larkey se miltey raho ya ek moulaqat bhi ya shaadi se pehlay achi khasi understanding bhi ho,agher kismat aap k saath nahi tau gher nahi basta baqi yeah hey islam ko hamey importance deni chayee jo islam main hey ussi per amal karain aur ALlah se apni kismat achi honey k liay dua karni chayee.kismat achi hey tau yeah pic,aur milna doesnt matters.. ALLAH SAB LARKIYOON KI KISMAT ACHI KEREY AUR NECKI KI HIDAYAT DEY [AMEEN] Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kiran 2 Posted January 20, 2006 Ariba>well chalo maan lete hain k maine ghalat baat ki magar larkiyan itni bhi bewukat nahi hoti ke un se poocha bhi na jaye humare Majhab main larki apni pasand ka izhar ker sakti hai aur apni pasand ka hi nahi balke us pasand se shadi bhi kersakti hai main nahi sumjhti abh iss baat ko bhi tum ghalat kaho ;) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ariba 0 Posted January 21, 2006 Tobah karo Kiran main larkiyoon ko bayouqat kaise keh sakti hoon aur wo b girls secton main.lolz Shadi sirf doo bundoon k darmiyan relation ka naam nahin hai bulk 2 families is main poori terha involve hotti hain.Unn main understanding ka hona zaroore hai.Aur yeh koon kehta hai k foran rishte k liye haan kar doo.Jahan islam ne yeh hukam diya hai k sirf aik nazar daikh sakty hain,wahan yeh b kaha hai k ghar ki aurtein ja kar larki k baray main achi terha ateminan kar lein aur isii terha mard hazarat larke kay baray main Baqi agar qismat main ko dukh likha hua hai to wo mil kar rahay ga,chahay shadi humari marzi see hoo ya maan baap ki. Mera maqsad apko ghalat prov karna hargiz nahin hai,sirf mujhay iss baat see dar lagta hai k kahin hum kisi ghalat baat ko sahe na bana dein.issterha emaan k jane ka khadsha hota hai. Islam main humaray liye bohut asaniyan hin lakin hum logon ne fazool ki batoon se apne liye mushkilat paidah ki hain.Allah sab ko khush rakhay.Agar koe baat buri lagi hoo to i am sorry. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 21, 2006 salam.... sabse pehle to main ye kehna chahungi ki hum sab yahaan sirf ek topic par discuss kar rahein hai...taake hum ek dusre se kuchh seekhein...so...koi kisi ki kahi baat ka bura nahi lagana...plz.... ariba... aapke replyz se bohot kuchh seekhne mil raha hai...plz keep replying... ariba very sad story... "Allah ussay karvat karvat jannat naseeb kary.Ameen" Ameen...! kyaa larki ke ghar walon ko ye baat nahi maloom thi ke larke wale...tasweer wagaira khichwatein hain...aur movie bhi banwate hai... larki ke ghar walon ne to larke ko dekha hoga uss se mile hoge...aur uss larki ke waldain to apni aulaad ko achhi tarha se jaante hain..ki ye iss baat ke liye (tasweer khichwane ke liye...)qatayi raazi nahi hogi phir aise ye faisla kaise le liye...? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ariba 0 Posted January 22, 2006 salam....ariba... aapke replyz se bohot kuchh seekhne mil raha hai...plz keep replying... ariba very sad story... "Allah ussay karvat karvat jannat naseeb kary.Ameen" Ameen...! kyaa larki ke ghar walon ko ye baat nahi maloom thi ke larke wale...tasweer wagaira khichwatein hain...aur movie bhi banwate hai... larki ke ghar walon ne to larke ko dekha hoga uss se mile hoge...aur uss larki ke waldain to apni aulaad ko achhi tarha se jaante hain..ki ye iss baat ke liye (tasweer khichwane ke liye...)qatayi raazi nahi hogi phir aise ye faisla kaise le liye...? 168537[/snapback] Wa Alikum salam. Jazak Allah... Pata nahin kiya hua,kaise hua.Bas app youn keh lein k ajj kal show off ka zamana hai.Modern loog hain lakin sooch mehdood aur conservative hai.ander see kharab aur oper see achy hain.Sooch wohi aurat ko paon ki joti smajhne wali hai. Maan baap tou bura nahin sochte naa apne bachoon ka.Unko sab kuch pata tha.Lakin aub kiya keh sakty hain siwaye iss k keh qismat main aisa likha tha. Kiran>>Dil see dua hai kAllah apko Hamesha hunsta aur muskurata rakhay.(Ameen) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 24, 2006 salam... thnax maha.... ariba... yesterday i talked wid my friend... usski love marriage hui hai...abhi bas teen saal hi hue hain... main ne usse poochhi ki tumhein aaj tak kabhi aisa feel huaa ki ur hubby after marriage badal gaya hai...ya koi change... tumhaare dil mein kabhi aisa khayal aaya ki shadi se pehle aisa nahi tha...etc.... she said no.... ariba ye baat to main ne bhi ek friend se suni hun ki... "Husband ki asal nature shadi k taqreeban 5 saal baad khulna shuru hotti hai.".... (insha allah meri frnd ka hubby 5 saal baad bhi aisa rahega...) main ne kahin parhi hun ki.... "shadi se pehle...to bare wade kiye jaate hain har farmaishein poori ki jaati hain...lekin shaadi ke baad..."pairon ki jooti"... coz...iss ne abhi kahaan jaana hai........." Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Anoushy 0 Posted January 24, 2006 nish topic details main bad main lekho ge The whole issue starts on the basis that the parents want the best for their daughter and when they’re frustrated with their inability to find what they consider to be the best for their princess, they start looking in other countries, people from their home village or their home town, and quite often this is not what the daughter has in mind. The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime. It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones. It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement. Couple agrees to meet in chaperoned, group environment. Umar related that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram)" (Bukhari/Muslim). The Prophet (peace be upon him) also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them" (Tirmidhi). When young people are getting to know each other, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chandani 0 Posted January 24, 2006 i agree wid ur explanation anu Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 25, 2006 salam... thnx annu nice reply... annu and chandani.... aap dono abhi bohot chhoti ho par phir bhi... kyaa bina kisi ko dekhe ya usski tasweer dekhe bina aap uss se shadi kar lengi....? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Anoushy 0 Posted January 25, 2006 (edited) salam...thnx annu nice reply... annu and chandani.... aap dono abhi bohot chhoti ho par phir bhi... kyaa bina kisi ko dekhe ya usski tasweer dekhe bina aap uss se shadi kar lengi....? 169453[/snapback] haan ager ess say mery parents ko khushi melti ho gi tu ..... kio ya bi tu jan warny ka aik tareeqa hova na Edited January 25, 2006 by Anoushy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chandani 0 Posted January 25, 2006 jii same here :D Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Miss_Jee 0 Posted January 27, 2006 (walikumaslam) mere man'ana to simple hai Jo karta hai Allah karta hai or Allah behtar karta hai" yeh baat may be app ney hazaroon baar suni ho parhi ho " Allah hum sey sater(70)maoon(mothers)sey ziyada piyaar karta hai" tu eik baat phir soochain jab WOH Zaat e PAk hum sey itna piyaar karti hai tu humain dukh kasisay dey saqti hai yan humaray baray mein koi galat faisla kaissay kar saqti hai kehney key liya tu hum kehtay hain hum Allah pe bharosa kartey hain per jab proof karney ki bari atti hai tab??????? or jo yeh pori zindagi guzarney ki baat hai bagir deekhay tu app bataoo deekhney sey kiya ho ga??millney sey kiya ho ga?ferz karain humaray parents humain permission dete hain eik baar mil loa tu woh banda bhi janta ho ga kiss liya milna chahtey hain woh sab jhoot boley tab ???i dont think this gonna to work Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 27, 2006 salam... "haan ager ess say mery parents ko khushi melti ho gi tu ..... kio ya bi tu jan warny ka aik tareeqa hova na" Masha Allah! chandani...thanx for relying Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 27, 2006 (edited) (walikumaslam)mere man'ana to simple hai Jo karta hai Allah karta hai or Allah behtar karta hai" yeh baat may be app ney hazaroon baar suni ho parhi ho " Allah hum sey sater(70)maoon(mothers)sey ziyada piyaar karta hai" tu eik baat phir soochain jab WOH Zaat e PAk hum sey itna piyaar karti hai tu humain dukh kasisay dey saqti hai yan humaray baray mein koi galat faisla kaissay kar saqti hai kehney key liya tu hum kehtay hain hum Allah pe bharosa kartey hain per jab proof karney ki bari atti hai tab??????? or jo yeh pori zindagi guzarney ki baat hai bagir deekhay tu app bataoo deekhney sey kiya ho ga??millney sey kiya ho ga?ferz karain humaray parents humain permission dete hain eik baar mil loa tu woh banda bhi janta ho ga kiss liya milna chahtey hain woh sab jhoot boley tab ???i dont think this gonna to work 169802[/snapback] salam... miss jee welcome to CY... "WOH Zaat e PAk hum sey itna piyaar karti hai tu humain dukh kasisay dey saqti hai" haan miss jee sirf aaazmaish....hoti hai imtehaan liyaa jata hai... "ferz karain humaray parents humain permission dete hain eik baar mil loa tu woh banda bhi janta ho ga kiss liya milna chahtey hain woh sab jhoot boley tab ???i dont think this gonna to work" ji bilkul ek mulaqat mein koi kisi ko nahi jaan sakta... thanx for ur reply... Edited January 27, 2006 by ibtisaam Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chandani 0 Posted January 28, 2006 ur welcome ibtisam Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Anoushy 0 Posted January 29, 2006 wesy bi ya tu humari society ka aik concept hai ab tu wo bi change ho raha hai.... engagement kay bad bin deakhy ap kay dil main khud hi ajeeb si feeling any lagti hai... kesi kay hony ka ahsas ... u know wat i mean so mery khayal say bi essy hi hona chahya..............main khud sochati hoo wo ahsas kitna acha hota ho ga .... ab app chahy mujh khuch bi kahein ... wesay bi joriya tu asmano per bani hain..... MISS_JEE AM AGREE WID YU Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 31, 2006 salam... ok...annu ...iss ka matlab hai ki aap engagement ke baad uss se milna chahogi...??? or yesssss i can understand... :flower: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Anoushy 0 Posted January 31, 2006 salam...ok...annu ...iss ka matlab hai ki aap engagement ke baad uss se milna chahogi...??? or yesssss i can understand... :flower: 170329[/snapback] off course haan ager parents nay khuch uooo aaaa ki tu aur bat hai wesay mujhy yaqeen hai ya uoo aa nahi ho gee Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
plus protein 0 Posted January 22, 2007 hahahaahahhahhahahha abay let ur parents decide ................................sorry for bothering u but topic itna acha hai kih mein kehna bohat kuch chahata hun magr abhe tou mujhai hanse arahe hai " LAraib" or anu ki baat par tum log feekar na karoo mein hun na kuch karta hun tum logon Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ibtisaam 0 Posted January 28, 2007 hahahaahahhahhahahha abay let ur parents decide ................................sorry for bothering u but topic itna acha hai kih mein kehna bohat kuch chahata hun magr abhe tou mujhai hanse arahe hai " LAraib" or anu ki baat par tum log feekar na karoo mein hun na kuch karta hun tum logon Salam, Shukriyaa topic pasand karne ke liye :) see ya soon Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
saman 0 Posted June 6, 2007 heloo everybody :) main aap ki baat se agree nahi karti main bhi islam ke mutabiq chalti hoon par agar tumhare shohar ya hone wala shohar tum par yaqeen karta hoga to tum se koi se aisi baat nahi kareega..so plz apni thinking ko thora sa change karne ki zaroorat hai aapkoi Mujhay to uss see kiya kisi see b milne aur na hi9 dekhne ka koe shooq hai. Main pic nahin bunvati,aur koshish karti hoon k namehrum per nazar na pary. Allah mere samet sab ko isteqamat naseeb farmaye.(Ameen).Baqi jo Allah ne qismat main likha hoo wo hoo kar rehta hai. U guys only repeating the same thing.Lakin islam ka hukam atal hai aur har zamane k liye hai. For all those who beleive in understanding b4 marrige,answer my question. Agar kal ko apka husband app see yeh keh day k agar tum mujhay phone kar sakti hoo ya mujh see milne asakti hoo tou pata nahin aur kitnoon ko mili hoogi.App k pass apni safaiee paish karne ko kiya hooga??Ajj kal trust ka zamana nahin hai aur jo kuch larkiyan karti phir rahi hain wo b kisi see chupa hua nahin hai.Aise main kisi kay dil main iss shak ka ajana koe herangi ki baat nahin hai. App mujhay bataien k app phir kiya karoo gi???Kiya iss see behter yehi nahin k apka daman bilkul saaf hoo?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
