rabbia 0 Posted March 23, 2004 People often wonder why some people have such great friends and manage to keep them ... If you manage to apply the following in your life, the same could work for you: In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?" "Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test." "Triple filter?" "That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..." "All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?" "No, on the contrary..." "So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?" "No, not really." "Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?" This is why Socrates was a great philosopher & held in such high esteem. If we are able to protect our friends and those we love in this manner, we cannot be influenced by outsiders in having bad notions about them. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umair.zm 0 Posted March 23, 2004 veryyyyyyy nice topic rabbia so here we must learn how to manage our friends Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umair.zm 0 Posted March 23, 2004 u r alwaz welcome :) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sobia 0 Posted March 25, 2004 Rabbiaaaaaaa very nice topic! yahee spirit honi chahiyee logon mein!! Star plus k dramo ki tarha nahee hona chahiye balke hame apne friends per trust kerna chahiye!! Keep it up !:) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umair.zm 0 Posted March 25, 2004 rabbia khud bhagh gayee :P Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umair.zm 0 Posted March 25, 2004 F.R.I.E.N.D.S.H.I.P. F is for Fun............That friends share when they are together. R is for Reliability....A true friend is someone that you can always rely on. I is for Interest.......Someone who is genuinely interested in you, your fears, joys, and life. E is for Energy.........They pick you up when you are down, and give you the energy to go on and believe in yourself. N is for Nothing........Nothing is ever too much, no matter what time it is, night or day. D is for Distance.......Although the miles may separate you, a true friend is never far away. S is for Secrets........Your feelings and personal/private thoughts that you can only share with a friend. H is for Happiness......The way I feel when we are together. I is for Inseparable....Through good times and bad, tears and laughter. A friend will always be there for you. P is for Perfect........The friendship that you and I share. You make normal days into special days. Turn my tears of sorrow into tears of laughter. My world is a brighter place due to the friendship and love that we share. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NaDaN 0 Posted March 25, 2004 Rabbia Umiar really good! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rabbia 0 Posted March 26, 2004 :flower: thankx 2 Sanum,Umair,NaDaN.Sobia Waiting 4 u all to contribute here 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
umair.zm 0 Posted March 26, 2004 thank u nadan n rabbia :) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Waqas 48 Posted March 30, 2004 Nice topic Rabbia Umair good reply :) will post some here if i got some time Waqas Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pakistani 0 Posted March 30, 2004 verry nice ager hum issko folow kerain to kabhee humaree kisi friend se leraee na ho kiunkay leraee kee bunyad koi na koi ghalat fehme hotee hey jo ke koi outsider hee creat kerta hay na hee uss me suchaee hotee hay na hee woh achee hotee hay or useless ke saath saath harmful bhee hotee hay nice work Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sidd 0 Posted March 30, 2004 I think k hum ko kisi say expectation hi nahin rakhni chahye kion k jitni expectation hongi utni dissappointments hongi. Obveiously phir missunderstandings bhi hongi. tu mera opinion yehi hai k hum ko kisi say expectation nahin rakhna chahye :) In Love, " S I D D " Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aziz 0 Posted March 30, 2004 I love this Guy........... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rabbia 0 Posted March 30, 2004 Thankx 2 Waqas, sidd, Pakistani, Aziz :flower: Waqas waiting 4 ur post let me see when i'll b posted :) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rabbia 0 Posted April 6, 2004 One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley. A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart. Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, "Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine." The crowd and the young man looked at the old man's heart. It was beating strongly, but full of scars, it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn't fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces were missing. The people stared -- how can he say his heart is more beautiful, they thought? The young man looked at the old man's heart and saw its state and laughed. "You must be joking," he said. "Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears." "Yes," said the old man, "Yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren't exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared. "Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn't returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges -- giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?" The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands. The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man's heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges. The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man's heart flowed into his. They embraced and walked away side by side. ~Author Unknown~ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rukh 25 Posted April 9, 2004 very nice rabbia .. mean full messg Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sidd 0 Posted April 13, 2004 (edited) I love this Guy........... Kon Sa Guy bhai In Love, " S I D D " Edited April 13, 2004 by sidd Share this post Link to post Share on other sites