Qaasim 0 Posted December 4, 2004 (edited) A Cool Conversation on Hijab! "I'm so tired" "Tired of what?" "Of all these people judging me." "Who judged you?" "Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab." "Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!" "Yeah! I listen to music without hijab.haha!" "Maybe she was just giving you advice." "I don't need her advice. I know my religion. Can't she mind her own business?" "Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice." "Keeping out of my business, that would be nice..." "But it's her duty to encourage you do to good." "Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean 'good' ?" "Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do." "Says who?" "It's in the Qur'an, isn't it?" "Yes. She did quote me something." "She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Qur'an." "Yes, but it's not a big sin anyway. H elping peop le and praying is more important." "True. But big things start with small things." "That's a good point, but what you wear is not important. What's important is to have a good healthy heart." "What you wear is not important?" "That's what I said." "Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?" "What do you mean?" "You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting." "So?" "So, your appearance IS important." "No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion." "If it's not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Holy Qur'an?" "You know I can't follow all that's in Qur'an." "You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it's OK?" "Yes. God is forgiving." "God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes." "Says who?" < BR>"Says the same book that tells you to cover." "But I don't like hijab, it limits my freedom." "But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?! What's your definition of freedom anyway?" "Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do." "No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do." "Look! I've seen so many people who don't wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people." "So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point." "I don't want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I'm OK the way I am without hijab." "Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God." "You don't get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!" "So all these people with hijab never get married?!" "Okay! Wha t if I get married and my husband doesn't l i ke it? And wants me to remove it?" "What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!" "That's irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime." "Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?" "But then who would hire me?" "A company that respects people for who they are." "Not after 9-11" "Yes. After 9-11. Don't you know about Hanan who just got into med school? And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab.ummm." "Yasmeen?" "Yes. Yasmeen. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE." "Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?" "Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?" "You didn't answer my question." "In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood. But your short sleeves, tight pants." "That's called 'fashion', you live in a cave or something? Fi rst of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women." "Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab." "Yes. That's what it is." "What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?" "Well, that's different." "What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab.she was a woman, right?" "Right, but." "But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!" "Wait, let me finish, I was saying." "Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?" "Yes." "Specifically how?" "By te lling women how and what to wear, dummy!" "Doesn't TV, magazines and movies tell you what t o wear, and how to be 'attractive'?" "Of course, it's fashion." "Isn't that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?" Silence "Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market." "What do you mean?" "I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products." "I don't get it. What does hijab have to do with products." "It has everything to do with that. Don't you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men.and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks." "Like I don't have to buy hijab? Isn't hijab a product?" "Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumer ism ." "Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB! It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this societ y ... Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!" "Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day." "Fine." "Fine." Silence "Shut up and I don't want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab !" Silence. She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time. Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society, rejected by the Faith: Yes to curls, to blowed dried hair or colored hair no to hijab Edited January 1, 2005 by Qaasim Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rukh 25 Posted December 4, 2004 oh bohat bohat bohat zaberdast ..excellent ... qaasim >its too great post ..i have no words ...its true post ..really .. aik aik lafz sahe ..ajj kal her koi yehe battain kerta hai ...koi samjhnay ko tayar nahi ... kehtay hain AANKHOON ka perda hota hay ... or ALLAH fermatay hain sora baqra ki ayat main jis ka mafhoom hay in logoon ki ankhoon per perda per gya hay yeh ayat dekhtay hain per samjhtay nahi qaasim ALAH app ko bohat jazaye khair ata keray ....ameen ! app ki is post say mujhay bohat kuch milla ..akser log ayse batain kertay hain samjh nahi ata kia jawab dain but now i have :) jazak Allah ! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ADD 0 Posted December 4, 2004 salam 2 all QASIM quite true----really a nice n meaningful post keep posting n do sharing more :) Regards its me AD Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sanum 0 Posted December 4, 2004 Qaasim>>>excellent post esa laga jesey Sanum khoud se mokhatib ho. par Rukh main ye change khoud me dil se lana chahti hoon.dua karna plz Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
*m*s*a* 0 Posted December 5, 2004 A from me for this post... Hope k achi achi behanain iss paighaam ko DIL say samajh sakain amin Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
raiha 0 Posted December 5, 2004 nice post.main amal karoon gi.balakin main to karti hoon. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
~*cute pari*~ 0 Posted December 5, 2004 *ASALAM O ALIKUM* great QAASIM dats a nice topic..really keep da gud work onn... :) really i will also surely try 4 dis ... me 2 dont have wordz 4 praising ...anyhow n really touches deeply to my heart .......... :flower: thank u 4 waking up all of us .... ~*~REMEMBER IN PRAYZ~*~ ~*~FEE AMAN ALLAH~*~ Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
brown_eyes 0 Posted December 6, 2004 Asalaam o Alaikum warahimat ullah wa barkatihu... really very very nice post Qaasim :) Thanks alot :D I hope everyone will read this post :D :ph34r: gtg.. take care cooLboY :ph34r: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aaman_Eman 0 Posted December 6, 2004 (edited) GORGEOUS POST QAASIM... ITS REALLY VERY TOUCHY...VERY VERY IMPRESSIVE. Edited December 6, 2004 by AAMAN_EMAN Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ariba 0 Posted December 8, 2004 Qasim>>Excellent....very good posting.......loog exactly aise hi sawal kartay hain....aur Allah ki shan keh mujhay subah koo same yehi cheez face karna thi....kuch logon ko convince karna hai........I get alot of stuff. Jazak Allah Khair Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
**LaLa_1** 0 Posted December 10, 2004 ASSALAMOALIKUM ALL. A Great Post Qaasim......... Jo log ye kehtey phirtey hain k Perdah Dil ka hota hai oon logon kee khidmat main ye guzaarish hai k aap log her kaam dil sey he ker liya kerein, Khana bhee dil sey khaayein, Paani bhee dil sey piyein , wahan tou aap her cheez physically he kertey hain , phir Perdah k saath ye Mazaaq kion?? sirf apni khoowahishaat -e- nafsaani ko poora kerney k liye Allah k Hukam ko chora hoowa hai .....jab k humain tou hukam hai Allah k her hukam per apni khoowahishaat ko Qurbaan ker dou.....Perdah sey mutaliq is forum main bhee kai dafa ye baat zair-e-Behes aa chuki hai...........bhayee Perdah Allah ka Hukam hai , jaisa k Namaaz , Roza ferz hai isi tarah PErdah bhee Ferz hai ...... ALLAH PAK Amal kee tofiq ata fermaaye , aameen...... in logoon ki ankhoon per perda per gya hay yeh ayat dekhtay hain per samjhtay nahi rukh>> aap ne bhee bilkul sahi kaha k jo Log Perday k baarey main aisaey khayaalaat rakhtey hain , derhaqeeqat oon kee aankhon per Perdah per gaya hai jo is choti see baat ko samajhtay nahi , ya samajhnay kee koshish he nahi kertey ......................... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sania 0 Posted December 10, 2004 woow!! ... that's such a good post .. the topic's really good .. guess wat .. i wear a hijab! .. i'm so proud of myself! :angel: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
*m*s*a* 0 Posted December 13, 2004 (edited) Umeed hai yeh story achi lagay gi mujhay waqai bohat achi lagi issliyee thori si himat ker k Roman Urdu main aap logoon ko likh ker send ker raha hoon agar kuch samajh na aa'yee tu pooch lijiyee ga koshish tu puri ki hai k asaan ROMAN urdu main likhoo ... it takes long to read but its really a touchy story for every 1. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â DAWAT (thx to Mr.Jawaid Muhammad :Sunday magzine 'Jisarat':) Wo shoookhh aur chanchal si larki thi laikin ek waqiyee nay uski kaya hi palat di. Ab wo sanjeeda sanjeeda si ba waqar aur samajhdaar hai. Uska taluq matawasit gharanay say hai jo ISLAMI zabta -e- hayat ko orrhna bichona banye hoyee hai. Nadia ki ammi aur uski bhenoo ki khuwahish thi k wo bhi chehray per naqab pehan ker k ghar say bahar aaya jaya karay, magar wo na mani. Ulti sidhi behas ker k wo apni zidd per qaim rahi. Aam aurtoon ki tarah banao singhar ker k ghar say bahir jana isko bohat pasand tha bal k wo tu issay apna farz samajhti thi. Wo apnay abbo k sath kaheen ja rahi thi ek baray mian nay iss k abbo ka gareeban pakar lia aur janjhornay lagay aur pata nahi kia kia lagwiyaat baktay rahay jis main say bas yehi alfaz likhnay k qabil hain k "chor do meri beti ko isski maut say pehlay main tumhari jaan lai loonga waghaira waghaira" Nadia k abbo abhi iss nagahani aafat say khud ko chura bhi na payee thay k baray mian hosh-0-khuroo say bay gana ho ker khud hi un k bazo'oon main jhool gayee. Log bhi mutawajah hogayee. Sab nay mil ker unhain uthaya aur kareeb hi ek sabza'zaar main ek pair(tree) k sayee(shadow) talay lita dia. Chehray per pani k chenntay maray gayee tu baray mian ko hosh aaya aur wo hawanakoon ki tarah sab ko dekhnay lagay. Aakhir chand lamhoon baad shirminda aur afsurda ho ker khud hi goya hoyee. "Main jab bhi koi masoom surat aur iss (NADIA) jaisi piyari si larki ko dekhta hoon tu yun mehsoos hota hai k koi meri beti ko zabardasti liyee ja raha hai aur meri lakht-e-jigar ki izat aur zindagi khatray main hai. Iss khayal k aatay hi mujh per dewangi tari hojati hai, is per kayee bar main maar bhi kha chuka hoon ...!!!! magar main bhi kia karoon? main apni beti ko kaisay bhool jaoon jo farishtoon ki tarah masoom thi, jisnay ghundoon k aagay bay aabro'o honay k bajayee khudkhushi ko tarjee di. Isski ghalti yeh thi k wo apni khoobsurti ko chupana khilaf-e-shan samajhti thi. Jaisa k aaj kal aksir bachian apnay husn ko chupana aa'ar samajhti hain aur bay pirdagi ko bura mehsoos nahi kertiin. yehi dikhaway ki aa'an baa'an meri beti ko maut say hamkanar ker gayee aur yeh mera hi dars tha jisay usnay amli shakal di. Wo yun k pehlay QURAN -e- PAK ki perhayee [pehlay nazra baad main tirjuma (meaning)] kertay hoyee mainay kaha tha k yun tu chotay baray gunahoon say bachna chahiyee' khusosan baray gunahoon say' laikin ek bara gunah aisa bhi hai jiski meray nazdeeq sanaf-e-nazuq ko ijazat hai aur wo hai khudkushi! jab izzat say mehroomi yaqeeni nazar aayee tu yeh jaiz hai. Uss nay iss dars ko yaad rakha aur apni aa'abroo mehfooz rakhnay ki khaatir ghundoon k hi pistol say khudkhushi kerli. Ussay murda dekh ker main pagal hogaya. Mera ilaj hoa aur jald hi farigh kerdia gaya. Laikin ab bhi kabhi kabhi aisa daura per jata hai' jo meri shirmandagi ka sabab banta hai". Apni roodaa'd sunatay hoyee baray mian rotay chalay gayee. Aakhir main Nadia k sir per shafqat ka hath rakha aur kehnay lagay "Guriya! iss khoobsurat chehray ko bana sanwaar ker khula rakhna shiataan ko dawat dainay k mutaradif hai. Iss say bachoo meri nadan beti iss ki bhenat char gayee thi". Phir wo afsurda chehray k sath salam kertay hoyee chal diyee. Sab log unhain jata hoa dekhtay rahay. Jab wo kafi aagay dorr ja chukay tu sab ki nazar Nadia per pari, jis main hairat bhi thi aur Tehseen -0- afreen bhi, kion k wo apnay chehray per dupatay ka kuch hissa lapaitay baithi thi. Sab nay usay Duaeen diin aur kuch bari umer k buzurgoon nay us ker sir per shafqat ka hath bhi rakha. Iss k abbo ki khushi ka koi thikana hi na tha. Edited December 13, 2004 by *m*s*a* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
**LaLa_1** 0 Posted December 14, 2004 Assalamoalikum...... Its really a touching story .... :( .......ALLAH PAK sub ko yahi jazba naseeeb fermaaye ...AAMEEEN Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ibadat 2 Posted January 1, 2005 sorry for replying late.. buuuuuuuuhat buuuuuuuhat acchi post lagii mujhy its really an excellent post really . keep posting Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Qaasim 0 Posted January 1, 2005 :D janab it is never to late to reply anywhere or to learn anything :) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
*jadoo* 0 Posted January 16, 2005 (edited) BUHAT LATE PAREE HAI .. WELL I RAPEAT THE SAME WORDS.. OF ADD Really a Nice n Meaningful POST . Edited January 16, 2005 by *jadoo* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
